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There is no such thing as being a plain housewife/ mother

There is no such thing as being a plain housewife/ mother.


How can you tell if you are with the wrong person?

ImageHow do we know if  we are with the wrong person? Everyone wants to be with someone whom they can be with for the rest of their  life  and   have friend they can turn to in case of hardships or struggles in life,  and the question is, “Are we with the right person?”.  We can only tell that not only by the length that you have together, but rather if you are benefiting from it. Your life before can be a comparison if you want to weigh things out and see the quality of life you are presently living . Quality in a sense that while you are with that person “Are you missing the goodness of how a happy  life should be?” or ” Is this really what I wanted my life to be?”. It’s not wrong to say that love is blind but to contradict that people should learn to be an observant and know a person more before letting him be part of your life.  when it comes in choosing friends how can we tell if they are the wrong ones? Just do the time travel and see what  were their participation in your past especially during hard times. Their presence also shows how they truly care for you. .  A true friend knows you even at  the lowest point of your life. A real friend knows you more than your sister that she can even tell if you are faking a smile, or can’t take things anymore. When it comes to choosing lifetime partner how can we tell if they are the wrong ones? It’ nice to have someone who can fill the gaps between our fingers, but are we really sure if that person is the right one for us.  If you’re one of those “Love is blind” believers you need to think again and change that open your eyes of what is presently happening to your own life. If someone sucks the happiness out of you for the “nth” time better let that person pack his things and get out of your life. The personality and the way of living of a person can also determine if he is the wrong one. For example is a person who has many vices like alcohol and drug abuse you know for an instance that he would do no good to you (but if you don’t feel like living go ahead). Living with someone who can leave a negative impact to your life is like getting a knife that will slash your wrist. Sometimes it better to live alone than to be miserable with someone. I know it’s difficult because you might be thinking of the good old times you had together  but in then end all you can say is, “It’s worth it” and accept the fact that things will not be as it used to be and you have to get out of the situation. Just remember to surround yourself with positivity and never let someone pull you down.  Nobody has the right to hurt you if you won’t let them. But on the other hand if you think you can’t live without that person regardless of their effect to your life then it’s time for you to change that certain person to become a better person and it will take you a lot of patience and motivation to do that.

There is no such thing as being a plain housewife/ mother


There’s no such thing as a “plain” on being a housewife. Being  a housewife is the most important role in every household. She  is the only one  capable of doing several things  at the same time like  washing soiled clothes while cooking and ironing. She never gets tired of doing the same routine everyday. She is the first person to wake up every morning just to fix her family’s clothes and prepare meals for the day. She might not be like the others cause she can’t even find time to go to salon or have her hair done.  You might be complaining of your mother not working like the other mothers out there, but face the fact that without her you can’t even go to school wearing clean and ironed clothes. You might be comparing her to your office mates’ wife for not trying to look good because she is always busy running the household but then again who takes care of your favorite suit and always tie your necktie. You don’t like to hold her rough hands because she never got the chance of getting a hand spa after doing the laundry whole day.   There is nothing plain in what she do because for her she does it wholeheartedly and because she loves you. Every mother/wife is a unique individual find time to praise her even for the simplest things she does everyday.